WHY AM I STILL SINGLE concluding

Do i love myself?

One way of attracting love is loving and appreciating who you are. Do you love yourself? Scripture says love your neighbour as yourself. It simply means you cant love your neighbour without loving yourself first. This is not about being selfish, proud or self centred. But its about falling in love with your personality, appearance, looks, appreciating who God has created you to be. etc. A particular lady hated so much a part of her body which she felt was too big. She very much wished it was smaller, am sure if she had option then she would have gone for surgery. Amazingly, nobody ever talked about it to her until one day she read a book that talks about falling in love with your physical body and the writer particularly mentioned the part of her body she didn't like. Thankfully she changed her mindset and started loving herself as she is. Magically, people started commenting how beautifully she is with that size and today she is married and that is one of the things that attracted her husband to her? Three things loving yourself will do for you is..



1. it boosts your self confidence and self esteem thereby eradicating any form of inferiority complex. That way you wont cheapen yourself or allow anyone despise you.

2. It helps you love others too. If you see beauty in yourself you would much more see in others and it helps you maintain a healthy relationship with people.

3. When you love yourself, you very much attract more of that to you... remember you are addressed the way you dress.. have you dressed yourself with love?. Loving your neighbour as yourself means at least you love yourself first. So take your time and start loving who you are... love your size, height, color, appearance, shape etc. The one that will appreciate you the way you are will get to you when you start it first.



Do I respect people?

Respect is always reciprocal. First you need to respect yourself i.e having high regard for yourself not unto pride though. Also how much do you respect others. In every relationship, everybody deserve respect. Even a little child deserve respect from you to boost self confidence. Do you run people down because of how they look or appear? What if you are treated the same way you treat others how would you feel? If you have to say no to advances please do it respectfully in a way that the person will not feel like committing suicide.

Am I Hardworking?
Trust me nobody wants a lazy person as a spouse especially when it comes to generating funds. Remember the traditional addage that says "two hands washes better " God has invested too much on you for you to remain Idle. Think think think there is something you can do to avoid been a liability. Bros, Sis please get busy it can attract the right person to you.

Please comment and add yours...

WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?

 Excellent day beautiful people...
Lets talk about why some people are still single especially at a marriageable age... for all singles bordered or having this on their minds, look at the following questions though not limited to....

1. Am I available?
Some people are actually NOT available but they think they are. Some actions or way of life make you NOT available in the ‘Singles market’ which is actually over saturated. There are some mindsets you may have which unknown to you may be sending out vibes to men that you are not available eg Do you always walk around with this thought ‘ there are no good men/women anymore’ whilst praying for one? Honey, daz not going to work. As a (wo)man thinketh in his heart, SO IS SHE!!! Also if you are carrying emotional baggage, you may think you are available but you are not. ?

2. Are you accessible?
As a single person, you must be able to be reached. You
can’t be praying for a spouse and continually sit in your room under your bed, tz only mosquito that will see you and God. But God doesn’t wanna marry. Ain’t no eligible person gonna come under your bed and see you. Which is why it is good for instance to belong to a church and a service group. Too much stories of couples who met
whilst serving in church, but it's true. Being a member of the church ain’t enough especially if
you are in all those big churches. Chances that you would be seen are low when all you do is come in, worship and after service you just leave. Ah!!! Babe, how is that gonna work? Join a department/small unit/connect group/house
fellowship and let people SEE you and interact with

 3. Are u welcoming?
If you need to practice how to smile in front of a mirror, please do. Some ladies have a natural frowning face. A lot of men are not bold and they fear rejection so imagine they now gather courage to walk up to you and say hi or anything else to initiate conversation and you just size them up and down and are generally not very polite or welcoming. The guy will just change mouth, turn you to traffic warden and ask you for direction or to borrow bible or something else. Anything but what he was on his mind because your countenance is bad. Please greet people and respond warmly. He that hath friend must show
himself friendly. Recall Rebekah and how approachable and friendly she was to Abby’s servant and how she landed herself a rich young eligible blessed man..... TO BE CONTINUED....

THE CHRISTIAN GUY/LADY

                          
What is the definition of a Christian brother or sister?

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,5:23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.5:24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.5:25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
https://bit.ly/kjvbibleapp

A Christian bro or sis is someone who behaves like Christ

Check with the above fruits of the Spirit
,  A lot are indeed wolves in sheep clothings which call themselves Christians.

While in school i have met brothers who by their looks and speech look so much like Christ BUT getting close, i ran... check is the person a forgiver , you need a forgiver in any friendship or relationship.  Comments please.